Things of Beauty? Joy Forever — Even with ME/CFS

February 27, 2014

Jody Smith considers how things we consider beautiful can help feed a starving soul ...
 
pixabay-woman-celloI spent every day for years propped up on pillows on my bed. I could see out my window to the left. My messy closet was to the right. Looking straight ahead I saw a television, a messy desk and a dresser.
 
Then one year on a rare Christmas shopping expedition, my daughter Rachel the Chauffeur was with me in a department store, and as we neared a bunch of prints (pictures not fabric) I said in passing, “That’s nice.” I stood and looked for a moment at a scene of what felt like a French village.
 
A bicycle was leaning against a shop called the Elysian Café. An open gateway could be envisioned to lead down a pathway that led off in the distance to … freedom? anywhere I wanted to go that was away from my bed?
 
That’s nice, indeed.
 
Then she and I were on our way through the crowded aisles. But she took note that there was something that I’d said I liked. (I’m apparently not very helpful when people ask me for gift ideas for my birthday or Christmas). She made another trip to that store later unbeknownst to me, and bought me that print as a Christmas present.
 
I was quite touched by this. And I was happy to discover that the print that I had pointed out in passing looked beautiful on the wall of my bedroom. It wasn’t very big, it was just 19 x 15 inches. But it fit as if it belonged there in a spot that was directly in my line of vision, above the TV, as I lay propped up on my bed.
 
And since I spent hours there every day, the picture contributed daily to my need for beauty and imagination. When we were eventually able to upgrade a few things in the bedroom, its greens, reds and browns became the colours we went for.
 
It’s amazing what a thing of beauty can do for a starving life.
 
Some of us are fortunate enough to be living in beautiful homes with great views out the windows. Some of us have nice wardrobes, nice things. Many of us are not that fortunate. For those of us whose finances are in tatters, who make do with second-hand possessions whose only selling points are that they were cheap or free, whose homes or clothes don’t reflect us at all … every little bit of beauty feeds the soul.
 
One winter, my thing was high heels (before my legs and feet started ailing) even on days when I didn’t leave the house. That winter I also took money out of the grocery budget for the first tube of mascara that I’d bought in several years. I had sworn off the stuff when I was spending most of my time in bed, a lot of that time asleep, and I was sporting raccoon and dark circles under my eyes any time I put on eye makeup. I mean, what was the point?
 
When you spend so much time struggling with basic issues like breathing and trying to walk down the hall to the bathroom under your own steam, the niceties of life fall by the wayside and languish, well, for years. Pretty things become superfluous, and fall under the category of non-essentials that are as much a part of your life as a new car or an ocean cruise.
 
And when even the concept of beauty lies dormant, under layers of empty years like the remnants in an archaeological dig, it’s hard to get excited about the idea that it matters. Maybe you don’t believe it matters anymore. Maybe you suspect that that was all part of the happy, naive illusions you used to dwell in before ME/CFS trampled you, and now you are too cynical and jaded to give it head room.
 
But work with me here.
 
Do you feel an unexpected sense of uplift at the sound of your (almost-forgotten) favourite song? Does joy swell when you see the flowers come out in the spring or a majestic sunset? If you happen to look good one day (by accident, no doubt) do you get a split-second glimpse of your old self and experience a wavering hope that you might still be in there after all?
 
Cultivating beauty may be something you’ve forgotten about, and maybe you’ve forgotten how. Just maybe you’ve forgotten why. But it is definitely worth giving some thought to, and maybe even pursuing.
 
Since I came down with ME/CFS, I’ve never been in the position of being able to renovate or redecorate in any big way. And that is a bummer, no doubt about it. But beauty is worth looking for.
 
I bought a glorious emerald green glass bottle for a couple of dollars at a second hand store, and it’s ridiculous how happy it made me feel when I saw how the light hit it, how sleek and elegant it looked on my dresser. I’ve got a lot of mileage out of that emerald bottle.
 
And the fact that the green of the bottle goes sublimely with the greens in Rachel’s Christmas present to me, is sometimes enough to make my day.
 
Have you been missing beauty? Have you been able to bring some into your life once again?
 

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tatt February 27, 2014 at 4:28 pm

I was given an amaryllis bulb at Christmas. They grow so quickly that you can almost see it an the flowers are very large. Plants always make me feel happy but this one seems especially suitable for those with ME.

"If, of thy mortal goods, thou art bereft,
And from thy slender store two loaves
alone to thee are left,
Sell one & from the dole,
Buy Hyacinths to feed the soul"
- Muslihuddin Sadi,
13th Century Persian Poet

xchocoholic February 27, 2014 at 9:45 pm

Being forced to lay down most of the time has made me realize how important the view around me is.

I was lucky enough to have a small backyard for several years and could enjoy watching the birds and squirrels daily activities.

When I moved from there my biggest requirement was that I have a great view of the outside world. So, from my last apt window I could see the sunrise almost unobstructed and watch as pelicans make their morning journey to the port.

Now I have an unobstructed view of a small forest. Complete with hanging vines, squirrels and birds.

It's peaceful and rewarding to feel so close to nature.

As far as MY looks go, well avoiding mirrors works the best. I can't tolerate the chemicals in most make-up, jewelry or hair dyes so I am what I am. Who knows ? In some circles, I might even be considered COOL.

Great article. Tx .. x

Dainty February 28, 2014 at 5:33 am

Surrounding myself with beauty has been an essential factor of my healing process. It's a tricky thing in such circumstances, when I only have one set of street clothes and have to go weeks at a time without washing my hair, let alone trying to make it look nice without products. No make-up or nail stuff or anything either. I mean, it's hard enough to keep my nails trimmed at all!

Nevertheless, the past 2 years has been a journey into finding beauty wherever I can. The two matted and framed prints I liked and snagged for $3 each. Getting into photography with a borrowed camera, finding beautiful things and moments to record. Writing about beautiful things. Even finding ways to photograph myself that are beautiful, to buying a toothbrush that I found aesthetically pleasing! All these little things add up to brightening my day just by looking at them, having them.

I was raised with the notion that nice things are superfluous, and that wanting them is selfish and materialistic. It took a couple friends knocking me over the head before I was able to begin listening when that little bell in my head rings with something of beauty that's resonating with me.

The overall effect has been a significant reduction in stress. Beauty endears me to slow down, and testifies that life isn't too painful to enjoy.

peggy-sue February 28, 2014 at 7:39 am

I'm very lucky in this respect, I have always loved paintings and I developed an interest in collecting Art Glass before I got sick. That got me in touch with a load of other enthusiasts, many of whom have become very good friends in reality. (the secondary market is quite cheap if you know what you are doing)
Our home is pretty much like an art gallery or a museum, but filled with things we have chosen.
I never fail to appreciate all the lovely things around me, it does make being pretty much house-bound more of a pleasure than a prison.
When I stop on the stairs to recover a bit, I can spend the time appreciating a painting on the wall. :angel:

Dreambirdie February 28, 2014 at 12:19 pm

I am fortunate enough to live 2 blocks from the ocean. I try to get myself down there as often as I can. The ocean is like a deity to me. I have come to experience it as a mother goddess of wild blue beauty and peace. I want my ashes thrown in there when I die.

peggy-sue February 28, 2014 at 1:47 pm

This DD does give us time to "stop and smell the roses", doesn't it? :)

But so many folk don't realise it.:(

This was a wonderful thread to start, Jody. I hope many folk who haven't yet thought about this, will now start. :thumbsup:
As you said yourself, it doesn't have to be anything expensive, a second hand print or a pretty glass bottle is quite enough to lift your spirits.
(I want to see your emerald bottle, but that's just my bias towards glass;))

peggy-sue February 28, 2014 at 2:41 pm

I'm posting a picture of the shelves of glass I have in the sitting-room. This is what I get to look at when I'm lying on the sofa.:)View attachment 6578

(click on the image to enlarge it)

Firestormm February 28, 2014 at 3:08 pm
peggy-sue

I'm posting a picture of the shelves of glass I have in the sitting-room. This is what I get to look at when I'm lying on the sofa.:)View attachment 6578

(click on the image to enlarge it)

Flippin' heck sue :) Who keeps that lot clean?! :)

Misfit Toy February 28, 2014 at 6:16 pm

I love this. Jody, your writing is so succinct. I have a bedroom window across from my bed. The birds, the squirrels keep me company. Everything about my room is for giving my mind and illness ease. The color of the walls; blue. A tree is what I stare at.

In my LR, I have a flat screen. 40 inch. It's all about what I SEE. I can see. I can't get around much, but I can see.

I still love a nice purse, a great shoe, but I too am unable to afford it. It's really not that big a deal.

I would give anything for sleep and an illness that would abate. Not a purse.

But, I've got to have a nice bedroom. It has to be for my sanity.

beaker February 28, 2014 at 10:50 pm
peggy-sue

I'm posting a picture of the shelves of glass I have in the sitting-room. This is what I get to look at when I'm lying on the sofa.:)View attachment 6578

(click on the image to enlarge it)

For some reason your attachment just takes me to the front page of the site. : (

Misfit Toy February 28, 2014 at 11:47 pm

@peggy-sue ..that is so pretty. A sea of glass. I love glass. Love it. I can't stand dusting it, but I have glass too and collect pottery and handmade perfume bottles, or I did. Robert Burch, look up his work. He's in Putney, Vermont. He is amazing and I studied with him when I was learning how to blow glass and making glass beads.

I love your sea. A sea of blue and green with some pink/red mixed in. It's gorgeous. Art. Art is what makes the world go round and it comes in many forms. To me, the color of a rug is art; it's pattern..everything.

AndyPandy March 1, 2014 at 12:42 am

I bought a bird bath for outside my bedroom window. I can see it from my bed. A passing parade of white cockatoos, rosellas, magpies, peewees, blue wrens, finches, honeyeaters, pigeons and currawongs. Beauty, company and joy during those seemingly endless bedridden days.

Valentijn March 1, 2014 at 2:15 am

We moved into our house about 4 months before I got sick, and it needed new wall treatment and upstairs flooring, so I got to pick out stuff I really like, which also happens to be very tranquil and nature-ish looking. Bamboo floor, a natural pale green on the walls, and the Ikea furniture made of actual wood instead of wood pulp + veneer :rolleyes:

We have some varied plants downstairs in matching dark red pots to contrast the green walls and grey-brown furniture, and a nice little garden behind the living room which I have a great view of from place on the couch. Sometimes I'm stuck downstairs, since we have to move my mattress down here if I need to lay down most of the day, so it's nice to have things tranquil and pleasant down here as well when it's my environment 24 hours per day.

The only annoying thing is that I can't see the garden at all when stuck on my mattress on the floor!

peggy-sue March 1, 2014 at 4:42 am

I'm afraid it just collects dust, Russ. If I need to take a piece out to photograph, I do clean it first.
@beaker is the picture working for you yet? You might have to click on the bit at the top that says "view from original source".
Or I could send you an image in a private conversation?

Misfit Toy, you've worked with glass? How lovely! I can watch glassmaking for hours…:rolleyes:

Sushi March 1, 2014 at 2:58 pm
peggy-sue

I'm posting a picture of the shelves of glass I have in the sitting-room. This is what I get to look at when I'm lying on the sofa.:)View attachment 6578

(click on the image to enlarge it)

So gorgeous! Thanks so much for sharing your corner of beauty–it enriched my day! :)

Sushi

Victoria March 1, 2014 at 5:51 pm
beaker
peggy-sue

I'm posting a picture of the shelves of glass I have in the sitting-room. This is what I get to look at when I'm lying on the sofa.:)View attachment 6578

(click on the image to enlarge it)

For some reason your attachment just takes me to the front page of the site. : (

I'm the same as 'beaker'.
peggy-sue's attachment just takes me to the front page of the site.

peggy-sue March 2, 2014 at 7:05 am

I'll try a different image – one that hasn't been compressedView attachment 6585 by me beforehand.

Dreambirdie March 2, 2014 at 10:18 am

The big entertainment around here… not sure if it qualifies as beauty… is the squirrel and bird action in our yard. We have a bird feeder that attracts an entire flock of doves and sparrows on a daily basis, and there's a cooper's hawk nesting somewhere in the neighborhood, that comes around regularly to hunt and feast on the doves. And we also feed the squirrels, who are nesting in the big bamboo outside our back door. Mom squirrel has had two litters and they all hang out around here. Here's some of the photos my partner and I took during the past year.

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Firestormm March 2, 2014 at 5:06 pm

@Dreambirdie They are brilliant pictures. Almost as if they were posing for you :)

Dreambirdie March 2, 2014 at 5:21 pm

Thanks @Firestormm The urban wildlife have become the center of our attention around here. The shot of the cooper's hawk that my partner took really gets me every time I see it. He is looking straight at the camera with those piercing predator eyes. :eek: There are some shots of the squirrels that I really long to get–when they are lounging on the top of the fence, straddling it. They look so comical. Maybe one day. Also, I haven't been able to get a good shot of the skunk, as he is pretty quick to cruise through the yard, and it's mostly at dusk and at night that we get a peek at him.

The doves, OTOH, are always there waiting to be photographed. They send their look-outs to the top of the maple tree to let the rest of their flock know when the feeder is being filled…. which is twice a day at approx 7 am and 3:30 pm. They have us trained! LOL! :p

Jody March 2, 2014 at 7:57 pm
tatt

I was given an amaryllis bulb at Christmas. They grow so quickly that you can almost see it an the flowers are very large. Plants always make me feel happy but this one seems especially suitable for those with ME.

"If, of thy mortal goods, thou art bereft,
And from thy slender store two loaves
alone to thee are left,
Sell one & from the dole,
Buy Hyacinths to feed the soul"
- Muslihuddin Sadi,
13th Century Persian Poet

tatt,

Your flowers sound beautiful. So is the poem.:)

Jody March 2, 2014 at 7:59 pm
xchocoholic

Being forced to lay down most of the time has made me realize how important the view around me is.

I was lucky enough to have a small backyard for several years and could enjoy watching the birds and squirrels daily activities.

When I moved from there my biggest requirement was that I have a great view of the outside world. So, from my last apt window I could see the sunrise almost unobstructed and watch as pelicans make their morning journey to the port.

Now I have an unobstructed view of a small forest. Complete with hanging vines, squirrels and birds.

It's peaceful and rewarding to feel so close to nature.

As far as MY looks go, well avoiding mirrors works the best. I can't tolerate the chemicals in most make-up, jewelry or hair dyes so I am what I am. Who knows ? In some circles, I might even be considered COOL.

Great article. Tx .. x

Thanks xchocoholic.:)

Thank goodness for beautiful views. You have been fortunate.

Yeah, stay away from those mirrors. :) I did that for many years. I kept getting surprised, didn't recognize that face at all.

I ditched all cosmetics and hair dyes for several years, trying to get the toxic load down. You are very cool.:)

Jody March 2, 2014 at 8:02 pm
Dainty

Surrounding myself with beauty has been an essential factor of my healing process. It's a tricky thing in such circumstances, when I only have one set of street clothes and have to go weeks at a time without washing my hair, let alone trying to make it look nice without products. No make-up or nail stuff or anything either. I mean, it's hard enough to keep my nails trimmed at all!

Nevertheless, the past 2 years has been a journey into finding beauty wherever I can. The two matted and framed prints I liked and snagged for $3 each. Getting into photography with a borrowed camera, finding beautiful things and moments to record. Writing about beautiful things. Even finding ways to photograph myself that are beautiful, to buying a toothbrush that I found aesthetically pleasing! All these little things add up to brightening my day just by looking at them, having them.

I was raised with the notion that nice things are superfluous, and that wanting them is selfish and materialistic. It took a couple friends knocking me over the head before I was able to begin listening when that little bell in my head rings with something of beauty that's resonating with me.

The overall effect has been a significant reduction in stress. Beauty endears me to slow down, and testifies that life isn't too painful to enjoy.

Dainty,

It's nice when we can make the big changes that up the beauty quotient, but like you I have mostly had to focus on small things.

I also grew up with an aversion to being materialistic and superficial. When life pushed me far beyond a decent balance for that though, I started pushing back, and have realized that my initial viewpoint was missing the mark. I have learned to value things that at one time I would have dismissed. No more.:)

Jody March 2, 2014 at 8:03 pm
peggy-sue

I'm very lucky in this respect, I have always loved paintings and I developed an interest in collecting Art Glass before I got sick. That got me in touch with a load of other enthusiasts, many of whom have become very good friends in reality. (the secondary market is quite cheap if you know what you are doing)
Our home is pretty much like an art gallery or a museum, but filled with things we have chosen.
I never fail to appreciate all the lovely things around me, it does make being pretty much house-bound more of a pleasure than a prison.
When I stop on the stairs to recover a bit, I can spend the time appreciating a painting on the wall. :angel:

Peggy-sue,

Sounds like the perfect place to be convalescing and breathing in beauty.

Jody March 2, 2014 at 8:04 pm
Dreambirdie

I am fortunate enough to live 2 blocks from the ocean. I try to get myself down there as often as I can. The ocean is like a deity to me. I have come to experience it as a mother goddess of wild blue beauty and peace. I want my ashes thrown in there when I die.

db,

I would love to live near the ocean. I am just blocks away from the lake but it is not a particularly clean lake and there are not areas in walking distance that are open to the public. Your spot sounds ideal.

Jody March 2, 2014 at 8:06 pm
peggy-sue

This DD does give us time to "stop and smell the roses", doesn't it? :)

But so many folk don't realise it.:(

This was a wonderful thread to start, Jody. I hope many folk who haven't yet thought about this, will now start. :thumbsup:
As you said yourself, it doesn't have to be anything expensive, a second hand print or a pretty glass bottle is quite enough to lift your spirits.
(I want to see your emerald bottle, but that's just my bias towards glass;))

Peggy-sue,

My realization was something that hit me suddenly one day and caught me completely by surprise. I have been trying to go with it as much as possible since then.

If I can get a photo of the bottle, I will post it here.:)

Jody March 2, 2014 at 8:07 pm
Misfit Toy

I love this. Jody, your writing is so succinct. I have a bedroom window across from my bed. The birds, the squirrels keep me company. Everything about my room is for giving my mind and illness ease. The color of the walls; blue. A tree is what I stare at.

In my LR, I have a flat screen. 40 inch. It's all about what I SEE. I can see. I can't get around much, but I can see.

I still love a nice purse, a great shoe, but I too am unable to afford it. It's really not that big a deal.

I would give anything for sleep and an illness that would abate. Not a purse.

But, I've got to have a nice bedroom. It has to be for my sanity.

Thanks Misfit Toy. :)

Your priorities make sense to me.:)

Jody March 2, 2014 at 8:08 pm
AndyPandy

I bought a bird bath for outside my bedroom window. I can see it from my bed. A passing parade of white cockatoos, rosellas, magpies, peewees, blue wrens, finches, honeyeaters, pigeons and currawongs. Beauty, company and joy during those seemingly endless bedridden days.

AndyPandy,

Your birds sound wonderful. Sounds like your bird bath is doing the trick.:)

Jody March 2, 2014 at 8:10 pm
Valentijn

We moved into our house about 4 months before I got sick, and it needed new wall treatment and upstairs flooring, so I got to pick out stuff I really like, which also happens to be very tranquil and nature-ish looking. Bamboo floor, a natural pale green on the walls, and the Ikea furniture made of actual wood instead of wood pulp + veneer :rolleyes:

We have some varied plants downstairs in matching dark red pots to contrast the green walls and grey-brown furniture, and a nice little garden behind the living room which I have a great view of from place on the couch. Sometimes I'm stuck downstairs, since we have to move my mattress down here if I need to lay down most of the day, so it's nice to have things tranquil and pleasant down here as well when it's my environment 24 hours per day.

The only annoying thing is that I can't see the garden at all when stuck on my mattress on the floor!

Valentijn,

We had bamboo wallpaper in one place we lived, I loved that. Having a mattress downstairs for a laydown is very practical. Too bad it's too low to see out the window.:)

Jody March 2, 2014 at 8:11 pm
Dreambirdie

The big entertainment around here… not sure if it qualifies as beauty… is the squirrel and bird action in our yard. We have a bird feeder that attracts an entire flock of doves and sparrows on a daily basis, and there's a cooper's hawk nesting somewhere in the neighborhood, that comes around regularly to hunt and feast on the doves. And we also feed the squirrels, who are nesting in the big bamboo outside our back door. Mom squirrel has had two litters and they all hang out around here. Here's some of the photos my partner and I took during the past year.

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Great pictures, db.:)

Dreambirdie March 3, 2014 at 10:02 am
Jody

Great pictures, db.:)

Thanks. Here's one more of the beautiful ocean. :love::love::love:

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liverock March 4, 2014 at 5:14 pm

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This is my back garden. :cool: Well not really, its a natural woodland park 50 yards from where I live and have been going there most days over the past 20 years to find solace and tranquility. I just like to assume its my back garden.

Before becoming ill there was not much of either in my life, although I used to look back to the 'good old days' as no doubt we all due and think it was all a bed of roses, which of course isn't true.

The park has hundreds of trees of all different types,sizes and ages and during moments of contemplation I often reflect on the life of a tree. Perhaps theres a few lessons for me that I needed to learn studying trees.

For instance a tree has no choice where it spends its life, it has to live and bloom where its planted. It has an ordered life, it has seasons of blooming and seasons of discarding leaves and blossoms, before a season of resting to bring forth new foliage.

It lives for others, whether its home and food for birds and squirrels, or a treehouse for kids and it has no choice who uses its facilities.

It has to learn to bend with the breeze or it will be blown away(boy do I need to learn this) and sun and water is all it asks for in exchange for all this. It never complains even when dogs urinate on it. A tree has no life other than to serve others.

Besides the trees there are the people who are park regular visitors who invariably
stop and talk if your sat on a park bench.

They usually have small dogs which mostly seem sexually attracted to my left leg, which makes conversation a little strained. :rolleyes:

All life is in the park, whether your a tree,a squirrel, a victim of CFS or an oversexed dog.

Right now Spring is in the air and in a few weeks the first signs of new life will be showing and as every year, a hope that some of that new life will be rubbing off on me. Maybe the trees have a few more lessons for me to learn.

Dreambirdie March 4, 2014 at 5:46 pm

@liverock Oh how FUNNY about the dog who likes your left leg. :woot::rofl::rofl:

Beautiful park, beautiful trees, beautiful reflections about life rhythms and the importance of bending in the breeze. Thanks for sharing.

Jody March 4, 2014 at 6:45 pm

db, that's what I thought too. Beautiful picture, Liverock, and a beautiful post.:)

liverock March 5, 2014 at 7:05 am
Dreambirdie

@liverock Oh how FUNNY about the dog who likes your left leg. :woot::rofl::rofl:

Actually I think it must be the aftershave I use (although I do have a very sexy left leg :D). The aftershave is called "Irresistable", the problem appears to be it works on dogs but not on women. I think I will write to the manufacturers and get my money back. ;) :D

Dreambirdie March 5, 2014 at 10:20 am

@liverock Women prefer natural body odors to stinky chemically fragranced aftershave. Dogs OTOH will roll around in just about anything. hehehe :p:p:D

peggy-sue March 5, 2014 at 10:24 am

Mmmm, Michael naturally smells slightly of fenugreek. He's lovely.

Dreambirdie March 5, 2014 at 10:30 am

My partner smells like soup lately. That gets me every time. I love a man with a soup ladle! :cool:

Firestormm March 6, 2014 at 8:39 am

@Jody

I will add the pictures from this story to your thread if you don't mind. I had not seen them before – can't remember them at any Olympics I watched – and I think they are amazing. Very inspiring from a lady with ME: http://forums.phoenixrising.me/inde…e-most-beautiful-things-i’ve-ever-seen.28754/

Jody March 6, 2014 at 8:41 am

Firestormm

By all means. Feel free to add them.

Dreambirdie March 6, 2014 at 10:56 am

Very amazing @Firestormm I would love to see a video of that.

Firestormm March 6, 2014 at 1:47 pm
Dreambirdie

Very amazing @Firestormm I would love to see a video of that.

Your wish is my command (below the picture) :)

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Dreambirdie March 6, 2014 at 2:06 pm

WOW! Words cannot possibly describe that. :wide-eyed::jaw-drop::jaw-drop:

Thanks for posting, @Firestormm :thumbsup:

taniaaust1 March 18, 2014 at 2:31 am

View attachment 6763 plant beauty around my new pond.

Jody.. this article.. is an awesome one. Simple but awesome as beauty is such an important thing. Something I think many here forget due to being so caught up in and struggling with this illness.

I think too that there comes a point in which after years of being chronically sick of our houses and gear falling apart around us eg things over time getting broke, being too sick to get things repaired or buy new ones.. in the end every thing becomes such a sad and sorry state, so one comes to really appreciate beauty at this point and start to really seek this out to try to bring more joy into our lives.

Ive have had comments to me telling me my priorities arent right but Ive travelled this journey you obviously have travelled too and reached this point where beauty now is VERY important to me. Its the light in my life and helps make my life worth living.

It took me a whole year to do my pond (with some help.. I think my focus with this when there was so many other things I should of been focusing on did confuse some people).. but this is the beauty I now see out of the windows of 3 different rooms which surround this pond (previously basicallly a bare patch which grew weeds). My house does a U around this area hence why this is next to 3 rooms windows. It was well worth putting other very important things aside in the year it took to do this. Its one light in my life.

You expressed what Ive tried to say to people at times but havent been able to say well about importance of beauty.. even more important to have around us if we are housebound or bedbound there is nothing more depressing then just looking at bare walls (I did that full time for almost a year) or a yard full of long grass from a window or not able to go to a park or beach and enjoy beauty there Sometimes we need to bring that beauty to us. . I'll keep the link for this thread so next time someone makes a comment about me having wrong priorities eg making beauty important in my life (my elderly friend doesnt get this.. he gets frustrated at my "wrong" priorities, so I'll be getting him to read this article next time I see him).

I now have frogs in the pond I love to watch. (I got big dragonfly nymphs all over the bottom of the pond, in the pond which Im waiting to get grown enough to climb up and spreed their wings and fly).

(pond photo coming up when I can find it.. edited this post as I posted wrong pond picture)

taniaaust1 March 18, 2014 at 3:22 am

View attachment 6764 A photo I took a few months ago. Beauty even can be found in my overgrown backyard. I love animals. I have many birds visit my place. (I dont know if this photo is full of spiritballs as these dont look like the ones I see and take photos of so maybe this photo just ended up with some strange light affect?.. or maybe these are nature spirits in the garden?).

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